I’d like to use the quote Laura Fanucci used when she announced her pregnancy after losing her twin girls, “the world is never ready for the birth of a child.”
We are beyond excited for this little one. Most of the people we told were worried about me getting sick again. Some thought it was really soon, (Zelie will be 1.5 when this one is born). The rest of the people we told were over the moon.
We are at a point where I can’t hide the pregnancy anymore. Despite all we did to prevent HG, unfortunately, it is here again, and it’s almost as bad as last time. Luckily my doctor was very proactive and we started treatment right away. I’m taking a combo of meds and had my picc line placed on Monday. I now receive two bags of IV fluids a day. I’m only throwing up once or twice a day as long as I’m taking all my meds. The harder battle for me is actually the debilitating headaches, which we still haven’t found a treatment for. All tests have come back normal, so we are clueless.
So I want to ask for your prayers.
My aunt comes over once a week for the day to help me now, which I am so so grateful for. My sister-in-law comes for a couple hours in the morning once a week to play with Zelie. My mother in law is basically on call. She probably comes for a few hours twice a week.
Now. These are all the questions we’ve received already, so I’ll save your breath.
Did we plan this? No.
We weren’t using contraception but we were charting my fertility and avoiding intimacy when I appeared to have fertile cervical mucus.
To be honest, charting postpartum sucks. My body was fluctuating so much after being pregnant with Zelie, giving birth, and breastfeeding. Then my body was trying to balance its hormones and trying to start my cycles again. So charting was really confusing and there was just no way that we personally were going to abstain for months.
So technically, yes we were open to life every time. We also knew there was a low chance of conceiving based on my cervical mucus. I got my first period 6 months postpartum, and then my next cycle 50 days later. Then my next period never showed up.
One morning about a month ago I had a funny aftertaste after eating some eggs. I accidentally drank some sour milk a couple days before. I asked some mom friends if I should go in for a possible stomach infection…and they instead said I should take a pregnancy test.
Huh. I didn’t think about that. It was way over my head. So no. We weren’t trying to have a baby. I just happened to get pregnant anyway. Sometimes people have hyperfertility (oh hey, me apparently), even if they have sex once (oh look, Zelie was born 9 months after our wedding date).
We have always wanted many children. We have never put a cap on the number. I am one of two and Peter is one of eight.
Literally the only thing holding us back on having more children right away was how sick I got with Zelie.
We worked really hard on having a healthier diet and exercising in hopes that future pregnancies would go well.
And honestly, since the average amount of time for a couple trying to conceive a baby is over a year, I wasn’t really planning on charting my fertility when we first got married. I was charting my temps in the morning, but that method doesn’t work very well for everyone. We were just going to do whatever and see what happens since a year to conceive seemed realistic and doable. So even though I loathe charting, it’s something we need to do anyway.
So because I can’t keep a secret, here’s our announcement.
And honestly, I thought that day was an infertile day.
So whatever you think, I love children, and Zelie needs a sibling to play with.
If you live in the area and are looking for a way to help, we have a meal train started here.